So, let's talk about how I don't know how to make friends.
Most girls my age-ish end their sentences on a high note as if they are asking a question. And love to go tanning. And talk about how much they are going to drink over the weekend. And call students cray-cray. And scream when they see mice.
None of them are bad people. In fact, most I've met are downright intelligent and good at their jobs. Its just.... I have absolutely nothing in common with them outside of teaching.
So, I sit their quietly and TRY to think of something nice/funny/interesting to say. This usually results in me saying something I think is hilarious, to which dead silence rocks the room OR, my comment gets ignored completely.
The flip side is: I say something I think is hilarious, and its comes off as really sarcastic, and they seem a little offended. Shit.
Now the guys-- the guys I'm good with. I can make friends with them. Or anyone who is older than I am. Or any woman who likes other women. But women my own age? Forget it. They're like another species.
Where are all the women who still love playing in the rain, do ridiculous things WITHOUT being inebriated, love being outside, don't give two poops about designer labels, and read instead of watching trashy tv? Where are they?
They must exist.
Last week, a new student described me as being "insanely confident." With kids.... this is true. With adults... its a toss up. One of my co-workers (a trustworthy male who cracks me up every 5 seconds) said that I did come off a bit standoffish. I don't mean to. It just... happens.
But, maybe this is why I'm good with weirdo middle-schoolers. I still know what it feels like to be awkward.
7 comments:
I like you and I think you are cray cray!
Love you too, Jules. :)
Totally understand the not fitting in part. I am a guys' girl. I play video games and tend to just get along with guys better. Honestly, I have two close friends that are girls. Second awkwardness- I was at a school where everyone dressed to the nines every day and I was the "mountain hick from North Georgia". Everyone was sweet, but I just didn't fit in with that group. Needless to say, I got homesick after a while and moved back home. Now I'm in a school system where I'm related to someone in administration and most of the teachers dislike me, and I feel that there is no one to talk to or trust. Plus, there's this awkward social behavior (I guess, because I'm like you, I get along better with the guys, and most of my colleagues are women).
Story of my life!
Nice blog post..Thanks a lot for sharing..keep it up..
I know how you feel. I attended graduate school with a whole gaggle of girls like that. It was the longest, loneliest two years of my life. I'm fortunate at my current job to work with a lot of women who are more like me, who talk about things other than purses, dieting, reality television and how badly they want to get married/have a baby. We're out there, we're just not easy to find! When it comes to seeking out like-minded folks, Viagra Guy and I have the same advice, "keep it up!"
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